Social customs

Social customs

Postby CielOnTap on Tue Nov 17, 2009 8:46 pm

Speak-Ez does not have its own etiquette counsellor in-house, but the team at Speak-Ez certainly discovers social customs in the stories perused for posting on any given day.

Let's start off with the custom of wedding gifts. In South Korea, the custom is to give the newlyweds an envelope of cash at the cashier desk of the reception hall. Some individuals in the higher social strata are rethinking such gifts given the recession and social "face."

Questioning a Korean Wedding Tradition
By CHOE SANG-HUN
Published: November 17, 2009
When a daughter of Kim Jong-chang, South Korea’s top financial regulator, got married last June, Mr. Kim did something unusual: He eliminated the cashier and the cash-filled envelopes.

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Wedding guests hand in cash envelopes to cashiers at a Seoul wedding on Oct. 24. They also get food tickets that allow them to have the meal served after the wedding.

These are fixtures of a South Korean wedding, as much so as the wedding officiant. Before entering the wedding hall, guests line up in front of the cashier’s table to hand over an envelope stuffed with cash. The cashier opens the envelope and registers the guest’s name, and the amount given, in a velvet-covered ledger — often while the guest is still standing there.

“The problem with this tradition is that it can be abused for bribery,” said Mr. Kim, governor of the Financial Supervisory Service, which regulates the South Korean banking and securities industries. “In my case, many banking officials would have shown up with cash gifts. They would have wondered whether I was annoyed that they didn’t put enough in the envelope.”
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/18/world/asia/18iht-gifts.html?hp

Imagine having to collect the meal ticket in order to get food at the reception. Definitely a situation of counting tickets and attendees in order to settle with the caterer on food costs.
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Re: Social customs

Postby manga2read on Tue Nov 17, 2009 9:24 pm

An experience to hope for one day-an invite to a wedding in South Korea! Would need to learn the foods and identify what I could eat. Lots of press attend the celebrity weddings at the hotels.
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Re: Social customs

Postby CielOnTap on Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:58 pm

40,000 guests for the wedding of two adult offspring of two well-known families? Showbiz style event wedding is set to go in Pune, India.

40,000 invited to the wedding of Munde's girl
Shailendra Paranjpe / DNAThursday, December 10, 2009 2:30 IST
Mumbai: At least 40,000 people -- including top BJP leaders, chief minister Ashok Chavan, and other dignitaries -- are scheduled to reach Pune on Friday to attend 'the great, grand and royal' wedding of Dr Pritam Munde, daughter of BJP national general secretary Gopinath Munde.

Pritam, a dermatologist, will marry Gaurav Khade, an IT engineer doing his PhD in the US. Gaurav is the son of Dr Rajendra Khade, a well-known radiologist in Nashik.

Apart from top BJP leaders, including leader of the opposition in the Lok Sabha LK Advani, party president Rajnath Singh and leader of the opposition in the Rajya Sabha Arun Jaitley, at least half of the state cabinet is expected to attend the wedding at the Shri Shivaji Preparatory Military School (SSPMS) grounds in Shivajinagar. http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_40000-invited-to-the-wedding-of-munde-s-girl_1322028

Many food stations will be needed and freshly baked naan bread will mean hours of work for the hospitality crew. Let's hope that the event plans include donating leftover food to charities or soup kitchens nearby.
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Postby CielOnTap on Fri Dec 25, 2009 1:50 pm

Ambush and wedding are an unlikely pairing of words to use to describe a new marriage. However, a bride managed to surprise her groom and got married in an airport.

Man ambushed with airport wedding

By THE ASSOCIATED PRESS

CORPUS CHRISTI, Texas - A woman in a wedding gown surprised her fiance by greeting him at a Texas airport along with a justice of the peace.

Robyn Moore and William Acosta exchanged vows Monday at Corpus Christi International Airport after he got off a plane arriving from Toledo, Ohio. Photos were taken near a Christmas tree at a security checkpoint.http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Good_News/2009/12/22/12246171-ap.html

Definitely they saved on wedding venue fees. The airport, unless the arrangement was cleared ahead of time, might want to bill them for use of the space.
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Postby CielOnTap on Fri Dec 25, 2009 1:54 pm

Christmas Eve dip into the freezing body of water, anyone? Swedish folk went for the dip--brave souls, who must be much, much more warmer than me.

Swimmers flock for Christmas dip
Published: 25 Dec 09 08:42 CET

The traditional Christmas swim in the sea near Halmstad, a city on the southwest coast of Sweden has becoming an increasingly popular yuletid event. More than 100 people jumped into the freezing ocean at exactly 11am on Christmas Eve – with even more spectators watching from shore.

“It was like a parade of lemmings down towards the beach. And there was actually a little hint of sun on the horizon,” winter bather Svante Lundgren told TT news agency. http://www.thelocal.se/24050/20091225/
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Re: Social customs

Postby smitty on Wed Jan 27, 2010 10:22 pm

The cost of weddings in some places to yes even Canada is beyond reason. My friends have a lovely looking gal that had to fork out a mint for proper clothing as first girl or whatever.

He parents said something like "if you get married, no special weddings, & instead we will give you $15,000.00 for the start on a home for the two of you. So a few yrs later on she did become married which meant the above money & the parents of their son matched the same money for a home. Now that is smart thinking one has to admit.

So YES I can see the sensible thing of an envelope with money in it instead of ANOTHER toaster or such.
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Postby CielOnTap on Wed Jan 27, 2010 11:15 pm

Not all brides and grooms indicate to their wedding party chosen just what the cash outlay will be required for outfit, shoes and other details. Toss in about 2 or 3 gift-giving situations--that party invitation just looked worse. It really is not fair to assume that such costs will borne without notice as well as how many functions one has to be at.

It is far better to know what tasks can be delegated among family and friends and spend the money on good food, venue or entertainment and in the company of people you want to celebrate with. While image of the event rates up there with what the bride and groom will wear, knowing that you are $ to the couple dulls the sharpest of appetites.
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Re: Social customs

Postby CielOnTap on Wed May 05, 2010 8:38 pm

From Canadian Business magazine, May 10, 2010
Gift guide
Gifts: A concise guide to gratitude
How to thank every person on your radar in a manner that is at once appropriate and awesome.

By Kasey Coholan

Gift guide: Brilliant buysThe Star Performer

The challenge: Recognize an employee for closing a big deal with a gift “on par with what they have accomplished,” says Wendy Davis, CEO of Zebrano, a Toronto-based executive concierge service. Consider presentation, too — public gestures can mean a lot.
The gift: These double-walled champagne glasses from Alissia Melka-Teichroew’s InsideOut collection keep the bubbly chilled for hours. Pair them with a bottle of Cristal. US$60 for set of two

The Retiree

The challenge: “It is easy to fall prey to stereotypical gift with retirees,” Davis warns. Stay away from DVD collections that imply long, leisurely days on the couch ahead. “The gift should recognize their personality and at the same time transition them into their new life,” says Davis.
The gift: For an art and travel lover, Wallpaper* City Guides: World Cities Art Fairs set, packaged in a special-edition ribbon-tied box, contains guides to five cities that play host to the world’s most prestigious art fairs and events — Basel, London, Miami, New York and Venice. $60 http://www.canadianbusiness.com/after_hours/lifestyle_products/article.jsp?content=20100510_10030_10030&utm_source=business&utm_medium=rss

Gift-giving can be challenging for one's social circle but having to spend one's after-tax dollars on someone who may or may not be your coworker in a few months is a hard one. Do you gift colleagues for social occasions, have a social fund at work that everyone chips in for monthly or just agree to leave occasions to cards and the one or two after-work bar meetings?

Cash management strategists repeat that if one is living off of their credit cards, the charges have to be investments (i.e. tuition, groceries if needed to help you study), not wants. Don't live beyond your means. If you decide to give a gift that does not come with a name brand, you will know whether to continue the gifting or not depending on the first recipient's reaction.
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Re: Social customs

Postby CielOnTap on Sun May 30, 2010 10:55 am

Are you a woman motorcyclist wanting to see Asia by motorcycle? Consider your travel plans, as Indonesia bans tight pants for Muslim women, even if they ride motorcycles. Shopkeepers cannot sell short pants or tight pants either. No indication of what safety issues are going to exist with long-skirted motorcyclists or what standards the Islamic police will uniformly implement in determining who is in compliance with the dress code.

Tight-pants ban begins in Indonesia district
May. 27, 2010 06:44 AM
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MEULABOH, Indonesia - Authorities in a devoutly Islamic district of Indonesia's Aceh province have distributed 20,000 long skirts and prohibited shops from selling tight dresses as a regulation banning Muslim women from wearing revealing clothing took effect Thursday.

The long skirts are to be given to Muslim women caught violating the dress code during a two-month campaign to enforce the regulation, said Ramli Mansur, head of West Aceh district. Islamic police will determine whether a woman's clothing violates the dress code, he said.

During raids Thursday, Islamic police caught 18 women traveling on motorbikes who were wearing traditional headscarves but were also dressed in jeans. Each woman was given a long skirt and her pants were confiscated. They were released from police custody after giving their identities and receiving advice from Islamic preachers. http://www.azcentral.com/news/articles/2010/05/27/20100527indonesia-tight-pants-ban.html
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Postby CielOnTap on Sun Aug 08, 2010 11:57 am

My Big Fat Geek Wedding
Couple's love of science and all things nerdy was a winning formula for unusual wedding
Published On Fri Aug 6 2010
By David Graham
Living reporter
Note: This article has been edited to correct a previously published version.

The couple

When Aneil Gokhale, a self-described dork proposed marriage to Nicole Cheung-Seekit, an admitted science geek using the letters on a Scrabble board, it was inevitable the wedding would come with a high nerd alert.

From the initial “Nicole I Love You. Will You Marry Me,” to the weird science-themed reception, the couple honoured their commitment to the nerd within.

Certainly the two wedding ceremonies, Catholic and Hindu, held July 10, would be romantic and respectful of their religious and cultural traditions.

But cool? Not so much. For example: The invitation was decorated with an intricate cobweb of connected molecules.

The reception's venue — where else — The Ontario Science Centre.

The seating arrangements: Each of the 31 tables was labelled according to the elements of the Periodic Table — Helium and Hydrogen, for starters.http://www.thestar.com/living/article/843740--my-big-fat-geek-wedding

I don't find the decor for the reception weird--it makes sense to use a theme that appeals to both people who will be sharing their day with friends and family. The science centre would be the perfect place to find beakers for the tables! How many seating charts prompt guests to remember the periodic table? Definitely a story for the bride to share with her classes in September.

If there was a wedding planner involved with contacting suppliers, that person had to have been relieved that the couple definitely knew its wants and did not change them.
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